Author: gurlstalkn

What is loneliness? How many descriptions of loneliness can you name? Can you recall ever feeling lonely?

Let me be clear, I’m not talking about being in solitude or merely being by yourself. Often times we are comfortable alone.  Sometimes time spent apart from others is a welcoming opportunity. In fact, embrace those opportunities as God allows them to slow you down to reflect and gather your scattered energies.

I visit with those who are in nursing homes and hospitals.  Some of them feel others don’t really care about them. What about the hordes of men and women behind prison bars, who are persuaded everyone else has long since forgotten they exist and life is moving on like a great train pulling out of a station, but leaving them behind?

No one seems to notice.

In the lonely hours of the night, you wrestle with God and with your feelings of desperation, aloneness, and rejection. Perhaps, a friend or family member deserted you.  Your child or love one has turned against you or they don’t seem to care. Or ironically, you feel equally lonely on a busy street or crowded hallway.

It’s a bitter thing to be lonely, really lonely. Some of us know it all too well. All of us have felt the chill of loneliness haven’t we, whether we admit it openly or not?

When a person is lonely they want to withdraw, sleep, or perhaps escape by drinking or taking drugs to alleviate the pain. But none of these actions or reactions work.

There are depths of loneliness in you which only God can reach. You have struggles you deal with in which no other human can help you. It is during these times if you will listen you will hear Jesus say, “Let not your heart be troubled.. lo, I am with you all the days.”

Have you ever said, “I feel like everyone has deserted me?”  The next time you say that please read theses scriptures:

Psalms 27:10 Even if my Father and Mother abandon me: the Lord will hold me close.

Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous being not afraid of them, the Lord your God will go ahead of you He will neither fail you nor forsake you.

He will not force Himself upon you. You can shut the door of your loneliness against Him. You can put Him off as you sometimes do by saying, “I don’t need You.  I can make it alone.”

The cure for loneliness is a commitment in Him.  It’s when you cherish His word and His will that you will experience His nearness.

The question is do YOU really want Him with YOU?

Are YOU willing to open the gates to this Lord of all life and let Him make YOU A loving, caring AND happy person?

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While attending a ladies brunch, I was so blessed by the moderator’s transparency and willingness to share her “true” self. As I listened to her tell her story, the pressure in my shoulders and back began to lift, and my eyes shifted its view.  I saw her in a different, more loving light.

Suddenly it hit me!!! Her words of doubt, hurt, frustration, burden, suicide, disgust, and exhaustion were all too familiar to ME!!! As she continued speaking for the next few minutes, I closed my eyes as she faded in the background.  I no longer saw or heard her, but I was tuned in to my own inner fears.  A voice screamed: “Help!! Help!! Anybody, somebody please HELP ME!!!”

To the world, I look sane, healthy and fine, but there were times I was hurt by others or I was disappointed with bad decisions I made.  Somewhere along the way, I realized anyone on any given day wears a mask.  Sometimes it is worn so often until we forget who we really are.

I confess I wear masks too–attempting to hide or disappear–not realizing my disappearances somehow blocks truth from entering in. I have worn masks for so long until I am not always aware when I put them on.

Because I have a wonderful husband & family, physically healthy, a peaceful home, a nice job, good friends and thoughtful neighbors, why would I wear masks?

My siblings and I were raised to speak only when spoken to, children should be seen and not heard, don’t trust anyone, anything that goes on at home stayed at home, and don’t let others get too close.  So as an adult, I learned the hard way that having a spouse, family, home, and career were not enough.  I needed something more, Someone…

One day I found Him.  Hopefully, you will too.  He will show you who you really want to be, should be….

Just keep living …

I left the brunch desperate for more precious encounters like this. I pleaded with God for His direction. Then a thought occurred to me: Are there other women who feel the way I do? Having the truth, but allowing the cares of the world to swallow them up?  My mom taught us the best way to get out of a rut was to go and find someone else in trouble and help them.  Soon your troubles would become minimal.

Well, I decided to do just that!! I purposed in my heart from that day forward to maximize every opportunity to extend myself to others without a mask, inhibitions or fear.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s still plenty of room for me to continue to grow, but I was born for His greatness and I’m going to act like I believe it!!!

How can I accomplish such great a task?

I will stop looking at me and focus on strengthening, encouraging, comforting, and inspiring my sisters so they can see THEIR greatness as well.

A long time ago I walked away from shame and sin so I could be FREE to be me IN MY SKIN.

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