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Morning Thoughts…. by Candice

Morning sunshines!
So this morning as I was diving into my daily devotions, I came across a devotion that truly spoke to me! Some of us struggle with those silent killers…. Depression, anxiety, rejection, and many others…. Guess what?!  You are not alone! Do not isolate yourself. Get you a dream team to keep you encouraged and accountable, and hold near and dear to the fact that God loves you like crazy!

So I ask you this…. Who’s on your dream team? #youareloved#youarevaluable #ineedyou #youneedme

 

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Get it Done! By Candice

Today I witnessed a mother working diligently on school work, while her two children sat behind her playing quietly.

I have also witnessed a business woman run an entire business, while caring for her children at the same time! 

I watched a woman with my own eyes raise three children while going to school and working several jobs. 

I have seen women work full time jobs, exclusively nurse their children, while running a home. 

I have seen stay at home moms, manage their home, their husband’s affairs, and make sure every child is involved in education and extracurricular activities! 

If you ever had any doubt about your ability to achieve and soar, DOUBT no more! Sometimes we spend so much time doing for everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Do you have goals?? Weight-loss goals??? Business goals??? Academic goals??? Traveling goals??? 

Get it done!

#wonderwoman #knowyourpurpose #gurlpower 

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Posted in Health & Fitness

10 Days Down A Lifetime To Go


It’s no secret! I have battled with my weight for years and years. I recently received some health news that rocked my world a bit. So I decided to join the JJ Smoothie Detox. Twelve days later,  and I’m HOOKED! What can I say??? I LOVE them!

Before journeying down this “Smoothie Road”, I went to the doctor for a checkup and to share with her my desire for a healthier lifestyle. She gave me the “thumbs up”! In ten days, I replaced two meals per day with a smoothie from JJ’s book. I snacked on healthy foods and ate a salad or chicken and veggies for dinner (ummm… let’s not talk about that shrimp, taco, and homemade pizza I snuck in in-between, lol!!!).

Along the way, I suffered from a few hiccups. Overall,  I’m proud to say I am 10 pounds lighter and I feel great!💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 Each of the smoothies have a green leafy vegetable as its base, mixed with a fruit or two, water and flaxseeds, then you’re out the door!

Three reasons why I chose the green smoothies:

They are packed with all the good macronutrients our bodies need and desire. In my daily routine, I never eat enough veggies or fruit for the day. This new eating regimen is the perfect way for me to get my daily veggie and fruit!

I am a junior high school teacher by profession with a new infant, so I needed to find a way to gain more time in my day.  I teach back-to-back classes and breast pump during my school breaks and lunch time. Most days leaves with me zero time to stop and eat. The smoothies are a quick and nutritional way for me to have the best of both worlds!

My third and final reason, which is the best part for me is…… drum roll please……. MY KIDS LOVE THEM!!! My girls wake up in the morning anticipating which smoothie I will blend for that morning and what will it taste like! The hubby even offers suggestions!

This is a win win for me! While the fam are enjoying the smoothies, I am enjoying them! Yes!!!

After the detox, I discovered more amazing smoothies to try as well.

I want to share with you some of my fam  favs for you to try. They are amazingly ‘delish’!

NOTE: I usually add flaxseeds because they are loaded with Omega-3s, which promote a healthy heart and are filled with “Good Fats”. What other healthy and great tasting smoothies would you recommend?

 

Stay tuned for my weight loss journey!!! #teamhealthy

 

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GURLS’ 2016 Reflections

The reflections and lessons I’ve learned throughout 2016 surrounds the topic of family. I discovered the significance of the family unit and the profound value we are to each other.
There are some things I’m still working towards as it concerns families and dealing with crisis, such as listening, caring, putting someone else’s needs ahead of my own and in some matters withholding one’s own opinions by practicing the master of responding with a soft answer.

There is a need to bring both heart and mind to conflicts so love can be exuded. For it’s only God’s love that will get us through these times.

~Karen

Last year was rough and tough. I dealt with loss and confusion. I learned a lot about myself and others. Yet the one thing that stirred my soul and brought life back to my dead bones was getting back to servanthood.

How did I stray from the heart of what defines me as me? So I am reminded to serve my Lord in faithfulness, my husband in devotion, my parents in obedience, my children and other family members in endearment, my neighbors in safety, my country in solidarity, and my heart in truth. Whatever I say or do, I desire to give and add value to others no matter what.

~Leah

2016 has been a year of growth for sure. I’ve learned having children should not stop my dreams from happening! They enhance it. As I rearrange my lifestyle once again to meet the needs of my family, my dreams continue. My family has even expanded. So cheers to a new year of learning to manage life with a beautiful new baby girl.

#childrenareagift #momof4

~Candice

As I sit back and reflect on last year, I realize it was not an easy one. I quit and questioned many projects I began. Now I find myself in the same physical position I was in when the year started. The race is not how swift a task is completed, but it is about if one actually completes the task(s); within the completion of a thing, there lies the ultimate reward and benefit #Chris.

So I encourage myself as I encourage you. Pick it back up and begin again. But this time, put your best efforts into your projects, in relationships,  in financial freedom–whatever your heart desires. Remember, allow God to have His place in your life and in your projects because if you don’t, you will have to start all over again.

2017 tip: See it to the end no matter how much sweat or blood drips.

~Chris

 

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Posted in Life Challenges

Wasn’t in the Cards by Leah

Have you ever heard someone say while playing a game of cards, “It just wasn’t in the cards”? When I first learned how to play Bid Whist, I was told this phrase meant whatever cards you played or didn’t play during the game were not the only deciding factor in determining if you won the game, but also it mattered how the cards were shuffled and dealt to each player.

Certainly, skill is involved, but even the best Bid players lose games too if they are not dealt ‘good cards’, right? In other words, your chance of winning, whether it is 10%, 45%, 76% or 100%, is pre-determined from the beginning.

It wasn’t in the cards.

Relationships can be tricky. No one gets to pick their family ties before they are born, but we can choose who we become. During meditation one morning, I pondered over my family and life.

When I was 11, there was a popular girl in my 6th grade class I thought was pretty, smart and wore the cutest clothes. She always had an entourage of people around her at all times. I too wanted to be one of her circle of friends. Who wants to be left out, excluded or not apart of the “in crowd”? Not me!

Then in 8th grade, one of the boys in my neighborhood was “Mr. Hotty” of all time. He was slightly taller than most of the other boys on the block, light-skinned, with curly, sandy-brown hair and a bright smile. His smile made everyone feel welcomed and important. What girl wouldn’t want him as their boyfriend?

In High School, my junior class homeroom teacher was the flyest and sharpest dresser in the school. She was intelligent, classy and keen. She could see right through any lie and pretense. She was a “no-nonsense” kind of woman who was brilliant in math. I secretly hoped she would take me “under her wing” and teach me how to dress nicely and be brilliant too.

How about your jazzy Aunt or your hip Uncle? They were your favorites, but you were never theirs. Perhaps, your younger brother or older sister was. No matter what you did to get their attention, you were always their second choice.

At your place of employment, you show up for work early, work hard and often stay late. You meet your deadlines, you are an excellent team member and player, and you make it a practice to remember to wish your co-workers a happy birthday on their special day. Yet no one seems to notice or include you in any after-work activities.

I don’t know which “end of the stick marks your childhood.” Whether you were the popular senior prom queen or the nerdy girl with the wire glasses. One thing I do know, whoever you thought you should have been, wasn’t in the cards.

The hand life dealt YOU determined your heritage, who your parents are, if you were raised by both or one parent, or your widowed father or your elderly grandmother. If you are an only child or if you have five siblings.

Perhaps, you lived in a two-room shack in the Deltas or in an exclusive country club, gated community of Beverly Hills. Or did you barely finish high school or earn two masters and three doctorate degrees?

What I AM NOT saying is that if you were born in a two-room dump then you are destined to that place forever.  No! As we learn to do better, we can also choose better. During your most difficult times, do you push beyond to something better or do you give into hopelessness and do nothing?

News flash!  You cannot choose what goes on in another person’s life neither. You cannot “wish upon a star” nor manipulate a situation to fit your ‘world’. Be who you’ve been called to be and allow others to do the same. If you meet someone fabulous and desire a closer relationship with them, then by all means, show yourself friendly. If your actions are not reciprocated, that’s ok. Knock the dust off and move on.

It wasn’t in the cards…

You and I have purpose. Others have it too. It may not be up to us which family we were born into or how are childhoods were “played” out.  IT IS our responsibility to find our purpose: the who, what, when, where and why for our lives.

I am a late bloomer in figuring this out. Maybe you are too. Let’s search out and work on our purposes together. What do you say?

Accept what has happened and leave it where it is, IN YOUR PAST. Determine what kind of legacy you want to leave for your children’s children and then create strong links for their heritage.

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A Royal Cruise by Karen

As I write this blog, I am far away from home in a specific place for this specific moment. A time carved out just for me.

I am on a Royal Caribbean cruise sailing to Puerto Rico and 5 other islands: St. Lucia, Barbados, St. Kitt , St. Marten and Antigua, resting in His presence, as the ship moves rapidly through the roaring seas with thousands upon thousands of stars above.

I am in unfamiliar surroundings away from my norm.  My plan for this cruise was to mourn for my mom (who transitioned on June 4, 2016). Some of you may recall earlier this year in May I wrote a special Mother’s Day tribute titled, “A Different Kind of Mother’s Day”.  I had no idea this would be the last Mother’s Day I would spend with her, but God knew and I believe the Holy Spirit led me to write it.

After remembering I scheduled this cruise last year, I realize now it was Abba Father “setting me up” for victory.  He knew I would need this time to get away. However, that sad mourning I’d planned never happened.  He had other plans for me.

On the cruise, He reminded me my mom is free. Free from childhood struggles, free from financial woes and “making ends meet”, free from marriage challenges and raising 7 children, free from “robbing Peter to pay Paul”, free from struggles with weight, free from health issues and later in life major medical challenges, free from missing her husband and son who preceded her in death, and free from the fears she faced with old age and loneliness.

No more mom, no more!  You have been set free from ALL life’s worries. God released you and so do I.  YOU ARE FREE!!!

What on earth were you here for?   Why am I here?  Will I know the answer to these questions before my transition? Out of all the billions of people on earth, my mom no longer does.

I just read a quote from, “What on Earth am I Here For?”  It says, “…death, rather than being the end of your life, it will be your birthday into eternal life.” I like that and believe it is how we should accept death. The Bible states this world is not our home.  Hopefully, we are looking forward to an everlasting home in heaven. It further states, “at the end of your life on earth you will be evaluated and then rewarded according to how well you handled what God entrusted to you.”

Today is day 5 of the 7-day cruise and this analogy came to me: I am one piece in a checker game.  It is God who selects and moves me from one space or position to another. It’s been 6 weeks since the passing of my mom. Although this blog is therapeutic for me, prayerfully, there is something you can receive and learn from this blog.

For we all will travel down this road one day…


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The Gurls 2nd Annual Conference: Starting Lineup



Cynthia Massie, grew up with a deep love and appreciation for music. Whether it was Jazz, Rhythm and Blues, Ragtime or Rock, music was her greatest influence.

While attending high school, she was always involved in choir and loved to sing. One day she was invited by her schoolmate to attend a weekend youth retreat. It was during this powerful weekend she encountered the love of God. After witnessing HIS power, she made a decision to accept Christ into her heart. It wasn’t too long afterwards she fell in love with worship and sensed God’s call for her to write songs and serve in worship ministry.

Living in the inner city awakened within her a longing to see communities and neighborhoods impacted by Christ’s love. After graduating from high school, Cynthia attended Olivet Nazarene University and received a Bachelor of Arts in Social Science. Over the next seven years, she began leading worship at a small local church and continued to grow and develop as a worship leader.

Since this time, Cynthia has authored a worship blog and is featured on a recurring column of worship in the Movement Magazine. Inspired to help other “fellow creators” find their voice in the church, she co-founded Stain Glass Saints Worship Collective, which is a collaboration of artists united around the theme of worship and expression. She attends Uturn Covenant Church and currently serves as a worship leader on the UPraise Worship Team. She lives in Chicago, Illinois with her husband and three children.




As Founder and President of Awaken, Inc., Victoria Thomas has a passion for healing, and educating the community about domestic violence and sexual assault. Working with Awaken has brought her in contact with so many exceptional people. Together, they have learned to embrace and look forward to the promise of the change they can bring to the lives of so many others.

Victoria serves as a victim’s advocate, activist, motivational speaker, and author of Unspoken Truths, Shades of Abuse. She is a survivor of domestic violence, sexual assault, incest, rape and child abuse. She has dedicated her time and talent to giving a voice to the silent tears of abuse.

Victoria is very passionate about breaking the chains of abuse against women and children. No longer a victim of abuse, she stands firm on the motto, “abuse no longer silent,” when it comes to getting the community and churches involved and raising awareness.

Victoria has been trained in domestic violence, abuse intervention, crisis intervention, children and teen issues. Her vision and inspiration will give hope and healing to so many survivors, who have been silently living in the shadows of their abuse and abusers for years. Her courage and strength will give voice for freedom to all survivors.

As an amazing seamstress and designer, Victoria has learned the importance of detail and how they breed honesty, which brings people closer to God, their creator. Although she has struggled much, Victoria has loved much and has found balance between her humanity and her Christianity.

Reverend Oluwatoyin Olabisi Hines MA, MS, MEd, LPC, AMFT, NCC Veteran, is Founder/CEO of Grace Revealed Ministry, Co-Director and Ministry Coordinator for the Multi-Faith Veteran Support Project (MVP) at DePaul University Egan Office for Urban Education and Community Partnerships (UECP) and Licensed Professional Counselor at Road Home Program: The Center for Veterans and their Families at Rush. She also serves as Family Life Chaplain at the rank of Major in the Illinois Army National Guard (ILARNG).

In her role as Founder/CEO, Hines provides individualized and customized pastoral care, spiritual care, life coaching, ministry and training to faith/community leaders and groups.

As Co-Director and Ministry Coordinator, Hines collaborates with the MVP Team and faith communities to build military cultural competencies and awareness around services and care for Veterans and Veteran Families. Hines leads the development of the Spiritual Care Training; the training will inform faith communities about the impact of a psycho-theological model that integrates spiritual care and behavioral health to enhance care and resources for Veterans and Veteran Families.

As Counselor, Hines provides timely and confidential support, counseling and veteran health services to help understand, heal from and cope with the invisible wounds of war.

As Family Life Chaplain, Hines provides care and consultation to ILARNG Unit Ministry Teams (UMTs) and trains UMTs in Family Life Ministry. She educates, conducts religious services and counsels. Chaplain Hines also provides emergency religious support to casualties and survivors of traumatic events/critical incidents.

Hines received the gift of salvation at the age of nine at Jackson Tabernacle Church of God in Christ. At the age of twelve she preached her first sermon at Love Cathedral Community Church. She also began serving as choir director, youth ministry leader and worship team member. She served in several leadership capacities thereafter. Hines accepted the call to military Chaplaincy at the age of twenty-four. She became a licensed Evangelist at the age of thirty-four and ordained Pastor at the age of thirty-eight and Senior Pastor at the age of thirty-nine. Hines is ordained as an Elder, commissioned as a Chaplain and consecrated as an Emerging Apostle with Hope Outreach Ministries, Incorporated: The Apostolic Company Empowerment Network.

Mrs. Angela Robinson is the mother to one adult son and married 16 years to her Sweetheart, Pernell. Angela is the Assistant Chief Deputy Clerk of the Criminal Division with the Office of the Circuit Court of Cook County, which keeps her quite busy.

She loves spending time with her family and giving back to others by sharing what God has given her. One way she does that is by serving faithfully at Destined to Win Christian Center ministry located in Park Forest, where her husband, Pernell serves as one of the church’s ministers. She also enjoys travelling, bowling and dining out.

At the young age of 16, Mrs. Jacqueline Calhoun, accepted Jesus after hearing the call to salvation at Tabernacle of Faith in Cleveland, Ohio. Some years later, Dr. Sherman Arrington mentored her in the prophetic ministry. In 1992, God placed her at Abundant Life Teaching Center (ALTC) ministry, where she served for 14 years under the Pastorate leadership of the late James E. Watson.

In July 2009, Jacqueline was licensed as a minister and in October 2011, she graduated from Eagles International Training Institute in Dallas, Texas, with a concentration in Intercessory Prayer Program, and licensed as a Minister of Prayer.

She currently serves as a minister at Destined to Win Christian Center ministry, under the leadership of Apostle Kelvin Easter and she serves as interim Administrator at Inspired Word International Ministries under the leadership of Pastor Doris H. Love.

Jacqueline has been an intercessor for 29 years and considers it a privilege and honor to pray and stand before God on behalf of others. Over the years, she has learned praying in light of the Word and making requests in accordance to God’s will with Holy Spirit’s leading is best, yielding a harvest only God can produce.

Married to her husband, James for 21 years, she is the mother of 5, and grandmother of 6. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Applied Science, has been a Registered Nurse for 19 years, where she works as a Utilization Review Nurse for Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Illinois.


An ordained Elder and Prophet of Body Builders Ministry in Chicago, Elder Harris prefers to be addressed as Mama Yoli, but loves being called grandma more than anything else. Her love for family, God and God’s people is the premise of all her teachings in ministry. She is the sole proprietor of Ingredients For Success In Child Care, her private business that addresses parents and childcare providers on early childhood education. She is passionate about teaching parenting classes and has written a book called, “DISCIPLINE AN ACT OF LOVE” which is now being prepared for publishing.

Mama Yoli has retired from 41 years in the childcare industry as Director over Child Care Programs with the City of Chicago, the YMCA and Chicago State University. She now devotes her efforts in a refreshing new direction in ministry orchestrated by God through Body Builders Ministry: a ministry birthed in the spirits of her two sons Evangelist Jameel and now Pastor Mikkal Harris, before Jameel went home to be with his Heavenly Father in 2012.

She has dedicated her life to ensure God’s vision given to her sons for a non-traditional church that reaches the unchurched and those disenchanted with religion will come to fruition. Mama Harris believes God has ordained a new generation of ministers, pastors, and prophets for the last dispensation before Jesus returns, who will bring souls back to the original way Jesus did church – and that is – meeting them where they are without the rudiments of religion – but rather, through pure unadulterated love and grace.

Mama Yoli ministers monthly to DUI arrestees through the Illinois Judicial System and AAIM (Alliance Against Intoxicated Motorists) to deter drunk drivers from killing another victim because that is how her son, Jameel died – at the hands of a drunk driver. But as she says, “God desires none perish…” He is a God of a second chance, and commands we walk in forgiveness. This is what she preaches and teaches – unconditional love. Know her by the spirit, not her title.

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Hold My Peace by Chris

  

 

Be slow to speak! Be slow to speak! Be slow to speak! Be slow to speak! Be slow to speak ….

Now that I’ve gotten that out of my system, I feel much better.  People often look at me and assume I have it all together.  Sometimes I find I am in constant battle with myself.

I sit and think about how to prove my point, how I’m right and the other person is wrong, why I’m right and they are wrong, and I need for the other person to know why I’m right and they’re wrong!

I know it sounds insane, but hey, I’m not perfect.  I’ve learned not to pretend to be.

How does one cope with this behavior? Why do I constantly feel the whole world needs to know how I feel about me being right, having the last word, or getting my point across? Why do I need to “speak my mind”?

For over a year, I read James 1:19 every single day; several times a day. When I want to “explode” or “snap off”, I grab my cell phone, go to the calendar and read James 1:19.

When my children are screaming and tearing up my house, which is often, and I think I am about to lose my mind, my kids have witnessed me charging through the house to grab my notebook so I could read these words: “Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”

Does this seem to be a bit much?  NOT to me.  I have consciously made every effort to close my mouth and think before I speak. Why? Because, there have been times I have spoken too soon and offended my sisters and brothers. There have been occasions I blatantly spoke “my” truth without any regard to the other person’s feelings.

It’s not always what you say, but how you say it. And it is NOT about being “politically correct” either. Whenever possible, one should never offend.

Take a moment to think about what you want to say, evaluate your true motives and then proceed to speak. This will not only humble you and stop you from saying things you should not, but also it will help you to keep malice out of your heart.

I won’t profess to be perfect at this, but I am getting better with developing positive relationships and straying away from speaking negatively. It appears my hasty tongue may have been the root of a lot of my problems.

Take it from me be slow to speak and hold your peace.


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Posted in Home & Fashion, Kids Corner

Five Helpful Tips For Parents With Newborns & Toddlers by Candice

As a new parent, one quickly learns the cost of your little bundle of joy!!!! Following are 5 tips I use to SAVE BIG:

  1. Buy cloth diapers Before my youngest daughter was born, I purchased 27 colorful and fun cloth diapers, a little at a time and over the course of several months.  By doing so, it alleviated me from feeling overwhelmed with the total purchase–a whopping $230!

Before my daughter was in cloth diapers, I used the same 27 diapers over and over again since she was a “wee wittle” baby.

Below is a chart outlining the use of disposable diapers for a baby’s first 12-months.  Since my daughter is older than 12 months, my approximate savings exceeded more than $328 ($558 – 230).  This assumption is based upon what I spent on cloth diapers minus the overall cost savings listed on the chart:

 

How Many Diapers Will Your Baby Use in the First Year?
age diaper changes per day number of diapers cost*
0 – 1 mo 10 – 12 320 $64.00
1 – 5 mo 8 – 10 870 $174.00
5 – 9 mo 8 870 $174.00
9 – 12 mo 8 728 $145.60
*based on an average price of 20 cents per disposable diaper.

In a baby’s first 12 months, parents will have brought home an average of 2,788 diapers for a total cost of $557.60.

2 & 3.  Breastfeed – I exclusively breastfed her for 6 months before I introduced her to solid foods. For two months or so, I made her baby food, which was another BIG money saver!

Because I pumped everyday, I did not buy any formula for the babysitter either, but sent breast-milk to the sitter’s home instead.  Making my daughter’s foods was super fun too!  My entire family joined in with me as we anticipated trying new combinations and waiting to see our baby’s reaction to each new dish.

  1.  Purchase other items in bulk – I buy our toiletries and washing detergents in large quantities. I get a huge container of washing liquid that cost $12; it is cloth-diaper friendly and it works really well on the other kids, hubby’s and my clothes too!  Even though I do laundry about four days per week, this detergent lasts at least two months.
  2. Spend more quality time at home (we do this often) – family movie nights, evening walks, and of course having a sports fanatic husband, an energetic sports’ night is always top priority in our home!

Within the last 2 years, these 5 tips have helped me SAVE BIG $$$ for my household.  How do you SAVE for yours?  Please send in your tips!!  We’d love to hear about them!


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Pray-Plan-Pursue by Leah

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I am blessed and in wonder of His loving kindness towards me!

I was laid off from my place of employment on January 31, 2016. Even though I have not found work yet, I am grateful for this time off. I did not realize I needed it to re-center and discover what is going on with me.

Almost thirteen years ago, I was laid off from another organization. I was devastated. I was single with 2 daughters in college and I was the only one working. I had a mortgage, car note, credit card bills, and everything else it takes to run a household. I had no savings nor emergency funds. I was terrified for me and my daughters’ future.

All I had was a prayer life and an invisible God that most of my family and friends mocked. During this time, I purposely turned off the television, turned my plate upside down and chose to trust Him, though these and other decisions seemed foolish to the world. As He spoke, I obeyed.

The end result, I was out of work for almost a year. All of the bills were paid on time, except one:  my first monthly mortgage payment after the lay off was more than 30 days late–late because it took me that long to readjust my thinking and align it with God’s word, and change my prayer from woe me to God what would You have me to do?

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Months later the mortgage company removed the adverse late payment from my credit report, I went back to school for an entire school year (which I loved), I landed another job making more money, and I got married a year after that time to a wonderful man, who is my friend, confidant and faithful cheerleader. My husband is gentle and kind and leads our household into worship as we continue to trust Him at His word.

I learned a lot during this season of my life, but only recently I discovered there was more God wanted to teach and show me:  stay the course and do not lose focus.  It is in the everyday, moment-to-moment living we are to pierce through His “looking-glass”.

I was NOT suppose to get ahead of or fall behind Him (I knew this already, yet I failed miserably), but patiently wait for Him in ALL things, which is easier said than done yet a doable task.  There’s so much in the ALL!  I thought I could pick and choose what I give Him and what I decide to keep.  What a foolish act!

He should be included in EVERY THING, which is what I believed thirteen years ago, when I had no other choice.

God works through us in His perfection.  He is invisible and His works are seamless to the naked eye.  I forgot it is Him doing the work and not me.

After He made all things well in my life and things were better, I began to slowly move away from Him.  Unknowingly, I did what was natural and picked up life’s reins again.

The spiritual lessons I’d learned, I neatly stored away on the bookshelf and then walked out the room.  A lot of time passed and dust accumulated on the books before I realized what I had done.

When will I learn the pain of failure should never be the marker I use to seek Him?

Prayer works for so many reasons.  It relieves stress, increases my ability to plan well and pay attention to the details, while it decreases anxiety and depression.

While I pursue purpose, I hold my life and prayer together in my right hand without a doubt that He’s got me; that is all that matters.

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Posted in Giving Back, Life Challenges

Daddy, Where are You? by Leah

A few days before Father’s Day, a very dear friend challenged me by saying she would adjust something in order to fit my “comfort level.”  At first I was startled, but then I realized she spoke the truth.  I could not deny how uncomfortable I felt.  More thoughts surfaced:  what if I am not as courageous and as bold as I thought?  Am I not brave?  Perhaps, bravery exists in my mind, and I am only a risk taker in my well-maintained comfort zone.  Hmmm… Then it hit me!  The problem lies within my comfort zone. So I began to examine my heart more closely.

Along with many others on Sunday June 19, my husband and I celebrated Father’s Day.  We spent the day with my son and his family.

Here’s what I found in my heart:  Every Father’s Day I am melancholy and sad.  I have become desensitized to not having a relationship with my dad that most of time I am numb to it. I think about it, but I don’t let my thoughts linger for long.

If you’ve always had your dad in your life, then this blog will appear frivolous to you.  However for everyone else, including those individuals who lived in the same house with their dad,  but your relationship with him was unhealthy or non existent, I know the challenges you faced and I commend you for not giving up.  If you did not let your circumstances defeat you, you are a winner in my book!

Although my parents divorced when I was an infant, I’ve always known my father.  At a young age, I painfully learned he would not play an active role in my life.  There were many unreturned telephone calls and several weekend visits my dad missed from spending time with my two older brothers and I.

Though I watched a lot of television as a youngster, there were no programs to give me a clear picture of how a black girl is raised by her black father.  I grew up looking through my neighbors’ windows in order to steal a closer look.  I was an adult before I fully understood the disadvantages of not growing up with a “daddy,”  by observing others who did.

In Junior High and High School, there were Cotillions and Daddy Daughter School Dances.  The Cotillions were for dads to present their girls’ properly to society, while they danced the night away with their little darlings.  I was never in attendance because my father was not available to take me.

I wondered, Daddy, where are you?

If you’re wondering if my father is deceased, no.  My father is very much alive. He is simply an absent father.  Although I have spoken more with him in the past 10 years than ever before, he and I will never be able to recover the 40 plus prior years of my life.

I love and honor my father, because the Bible instructs me to.  He is a terrific guy, quite the student and an avid reader.  My father can speak with anyone regarding many subject matters with authority.  He is charming, has a catchy laugh, and he is a good host.

This thought struck me this year, “I may never experience a closeness with my father that I’ve witnessed others have with theirs.” For some, he is their best friend, confidant, and protector.  Particularly for the ladies, their dad is usually the first man they love.  These daughters bring home their first serious boyfriends for daddy to give his stamp of approval.

My father was not that person in my life.  He did not buy me my first car or diamond ring; nor has he ever helped me move into my own apartment or house, or mow my lawn.  No, he never gave me a goodnight kiss at bedtime or scare away the monsters and boogeymen.

It took me years to understand what the enemy meant to destroy me, God turned it around for my good!!  When I was thirty-two, I stopped “playing church” and met the Father of Fathers.  The One I call Abba!  He taught me how to forgive, to let go, to move on, to be strong, to help others, to be a witness of His forgiveness, to love unconditionally, to never feel left out and abandoned again, to hope for tomorrow, to give to others, to be an advocate and friend to those others throw away, and so much more…

He took me back through my life and showed me He was there with me all the time!  Once He showed me He was the One who picked me up from the playground unharmed when I fell off my bike at a young age.  I should’ve cracked my head, yet I walked away embarrassed and with only a small scratch on my leg.

I rose up early on June 19 thanking “Daddy God” for another year!!!  I told Him I desire to celebrate Him every day, not just on the day the world decides it is Father’s Day.

Even though this year I was not with my father again for the holiday,  I will continue to check in and call on him.  This is not always a comfortable place for me, but my prayer is he will know I love him no matter what.

I choose love over rejection.


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You Can Count on Me – Gurls Talk’n 2nd Annual Conference

We are so excited to invite YOU to our 2nd Annual Gurls Talk’n Conference!  

Join the GURLS for an afternoon of praise, as we are led into worship by our Special Guest Psalmist. The Gurls will feature a short skit, followed by a discussion with a Panel of Professionals and leaders of our communities, who will discuss with the audience, some important issues women face daily. Following the Panel Discussion, the Keynote Speaker will present a message that will speak to our hearts.

WHEN
Saturday, August 20, 2016 from 12:00 PM to 4:00 PM (CDT)
WHERE
Crete Park District – 515 1st Street, Crete, IL 60417 

you can count on me

 

 

Although this is a FREE conference, please REGISTER using the link BELOW!!!  Space is limited.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/you-can-count-on-me-tickets-26155347348

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