For years, I sought the approval of others. And I must admit, at times I still desire for everyone to like me, not be mad at me, just love me for me, and the list goes on and on…. For a long while, I was lost and confused by my idea of what love is. Continue reading “Baby Love THYSELF by Candice”
No hair extensions, no make-up, no high heels can change the way you really feel.
Listen Baby Girl, YOU are beautiful, talented, worth waiting for, worth dying for–don’t act as if you haven’t heard this before.
The world is waiting on the Queen you will become…
The love you will attain…
The life you will lead…
The world is empty without your beauty, without your fly-ness.
Yes, Baby Girl, YOU ARE A B-E-A-U-T-Y!!!
You see, BEAUTY is the name I’ve chosen to go by. A name truly meant for a Queen.
I embrace it, and everyone knows why. I hold my head high while determining I will not let my life just pass me by.
Understanding my true identity was not an easy task. So I decided there was nothing to lose, so I gave this thing called life a try.
Male friends cannot comprehend why. Why am I so emotional that often I cry?
Guys may never understand what makes YOU and Me so fly.
It seems as though life has its lows and its highs. Friends come into our lives, while others disappear without a trace, leaving a mere mist of smoke in the sky.
It feels as though no one comprehends these feelings we share. Will the unaware even dare to look us in the eye?
This reminds me of my father and others who have disappeared. It’s funny, but I used to wonder why. Now that I understand my true identity, the questions of who, what, when, or why doesn’t even come to mind.
As a troubled teenager facing all kinds of trust issues, little did I know time would quickly fade on by.
Being hurt from broken promises does not give me permission to label others. Everyone deserves a second chance to prove their love. Relationships will not last if you are not willing to give them a try.
On an emotional roller coaster, waiting for the ride to end. I never knew what my purpose in life was then.
I’ve learned to be slow to speak, before I utter a mumbling word, allowing myself time to think. Emotionless is not a part of the make-up of a Queen, but neither is being an emotional, out of control train that no one would have seen.
No one could’ve seen me coming if I hadn’t applied the brakes. Like high grass before its cut, leaving behind hidden snakes.
Sometimes silence is golden, just to keep the peace and hold ‘em. Baby Girl, you don’t have all the answers. You must learn to glean from your Elders. You must be made and molded.
I recall powerful words from my Queen, such a blessing she has been. She said, Baby Girl, you’re a blessing. Don’t lose your trust in hurts and lessons.
Instead leave a legacy for your baby blessings. You’re a Queen, never to be deemed as unimportant or just a mere human being.
She reminded me life isn’t as it seems and if I choose to walk this dotted line, I must never become a hopeless teen. A hopeless teen who gleans from tarnished environments, someone bound by fear.
Fear of the unknown. Taking a chance allows the fears to never be born.
So I share these thoughts with YOU, as someone who has real life issues and struggles. I’m not a curse, a statistic, or a worthless being. You know what I mean, Baby Girl, YOU too are destined to be a QUEEN!
© 2015 Christa A. Hester
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December 9, 2015
Today was amazing in so many ways!!!! Gurls Talk’n had the pleasure of speaking to approximately 348 young girls aged 12 through 14 within Will’s County school district. We poured love into their young lives by affirming, confirming and sharing with them how wonderful, beautiful, amazing, and ENOUGH they are!!! What an exhilarating experience it was! The Gurls are grateful, excited and looking forward to having more discussions and life-changing results with our youth… #ourfuture #ourkidsmatter
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ME:
I struggle with change, my hair, losing weight, loving me, loving others, allowing others to love me, forgiving, moving forward, driving on the expressway, trusting, controlling my emotions, having it my way, apologizing, drowning in sorrows, denying myself …
I am a mess. What is to become of me?
Because of the shortcomings in my life, at times I lose hope and lack faith. I begin to second guess my abilities, my ideas, my decisions, my direction, my confidence.
I am not bold enough, I have no vision, I am unsure of and sometimes am troubled about what lies ahead for my future. My purpose fades and seems dim.
I look on others’ successes and accomplishments and wonder what happened to my dreams. Yes, I had dreams that have long been forgotten and lost in a colorful past–too many “if I could’ve … would’ves … should’ves”.
STILL SMALL VOICE:
Shhhh …. Stop … listen. Did you hear that?
ME:
Hear what?
STILL SMALL VOICE:
… the answers you seek:
Think less about you and having it your way. Meditate on things that are “true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of a good report, full of virtue and that are praiseworthy.”
Follow My Will and My Way in every situation: when things are difficult for you to handle; and when all is well, lean and depend upon Me only. This will teach you discipline. When times are tough, you will know exactly what to do: run to Me.
Fear NOT– Doubt NO longer.
Because you are NOT in control, doesn’t mean Someone else isn’t ……
Trust Me. “I am here.”
Who told you life is “Hocus Pocus Poof”?
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Sister Loves, oh Sister Loves. You are sometimes busy and sometimes mean. Sometimes greedy and sometimes needy. But I still love you! I have no idea what I would do without you two. Even if I had to get stitches because of you (I may share more about that on Part 2). My sisters get really excited about small things or BIG things. Sometimes they do dumb things. And they definitely "get on my nerves". Sometimes they spill things I give them. Sometimes they take things that don't belong to them. Sometimes they ‘wanna’ act cute and sassy. Sometimes they are sooooo irritating, because They think they can get away with everything. But I am learning at 10 years old, they are apart of my life forever And I wouldn't have it any other way. I have the best fun with my two sister loves. And I am sure I "get on their nerves" too. It doesn't matter though, because we are a family that truly loves one another.
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October 23, 2015
Gurlstalkn co-hosted a Dinner and Panel Discussion with author, blogger and entrepreneur, Tiheasha D. Beasley! Gurlstalkn was one of the event’s sponsors and panel speakers. We were delighted to share in all the laughter, fun, great food and tears of joy and healing for the ladies!
#beingtransparentisapartofgrowing #grabyourbooktoday #Iamemotional #tiheashabeasley #gurlstalknbloglife #gurlstalkn.com
Check out Tiheasha Beasley’s book #Forsaken #emotionallydiscombobulated.
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A picture speaks a thousand words …
I have a concern with the overuse of cell phones during untimely events or in unsuitable places. How should I handle my frustration? Is it a “me” or a “them” problem? As I write this blog, I find it to be very therapeutic. HINT: notice my title, lol.
This is what I do when someone next to me is texting and surfing the ‘net’ at an inappropriate place or time: I glance at their phones several times while they’re doing it and I KNOW they feel my glance, lol. This is my way of saying: “stop it … come on now!!!!!”
Society and their electronic devices have become virtually inseparable. Cell phones are nice conveniences in a fast-paced world and a great device for getting help quickly in all types of situations, but they SHOULD NOT become a constant distraction for those individuals around them.
You know who you are! Has this become an addiction for you? When you are constantly texting, looking at Facebook or surfing the Internet in general, do you find it difficult to stop for any length of time?
Users have become efficient in texting or being online while driving, carrying on conversations (usually it’s a one-sided conversation—where the person who is not using their device does most of, if not all of the talking, lol), eating, taking notes in class, etc., seemingly without the excessive use of technology affecting their performance.
Even though your performance seems unaffected, the misuse of your cell phone can be viewed as disrespectful, though unintentional.
In the scriptures, Jesus asked the disciples (I’m paraphrasing): “ … can you pray just an hour with me?” Guess what? They could not!!!!
I pose this question to you: Can you be without your cell for an hour? Well, can you?
I suggest the following “no, no” times for when you SHOULD NOT use the cell: church services (unless you are using a bible app), family gatherings, visiting the elderly and the sick, and any other occasion where your undivided attention is required, requested and/or needed.
It has gotten so bad at my workplace we are not allowed to use our cell phones in the work area. If we have a need to use our phone, we must get up and exit the area.
Although I briefly mentioned in my blog texting while driving, I may speak more in-depth regarding this particular subject on another blog. However, I would like to briefly state that the statistics regarding the danger of driving while texting are alarmingly high. A quick suggestion: place your cell in the glove compartment and LOCK IT. Take it out after you have reached your destination. This may help you avoid all temptation to reach over and pull it out while you’re driving.
The next time you pull out your cell, please consider your “neighbor” and DON’T MAKE THEM WANT TO YELL!!
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I’ve been thinking a lot about what life would be like if I went back to work. Would my house be more or less clean? Would my children continue to thrive in school? Who would pick up and drop off three kids at three different schools, during three different times, twice per day?
Who would potty train my 2 year-old and continue to home school my 4 year-old to prepare him for kindergarten next year? Who would cook the meals, do the laundry and clean the house during the week?
Often I hear, “Oh, you’re just a mom” as though what I do is less important. It is very annoying. Annoying because, sometimes I feel the same way about myself. So hearing someone say, “When I see you, all I see is mommy”, makes me feel unappreciated.
I know “they” don’t mean any harm, but inside I’m thinking, “Hello people, I have earned a Masters degree in Finance so I know when someone is making less of motherhood versus people who work a “real” job!!!”
Before the kids, I worked outside the home for several years and even a couple of years in between my two oldest and three younger children.
When I worked, my days were just as long and my house looks about the same (not any cleaner or dirtier, lol). However, my kids do eat more healthier, home cooked meals most days, and they each spend extra time with mommy; not to mention, their clothes are always clean and ironed😉.
Even after saying all of that, I see my doctor, lawyer, the kids’ social worker, guidance counselor, and some of my relatives and friends who are professional educators who work outside their homes. I look at their accomplishments and I often compare myself to them. I have the most kids out of all my girlfriends and I no longer work in a professional setting.
It seems as though no one really understands the real struggles I face on a daily basis. Staying at home to raise 5 kids is more than one full-time job. It involves non-stop work, endless days and sleepless nights, 365 days with no overtime pay, no paid time off nor year-end bonus.
I don’t do the “clubbing” thing. Heck, I don’t get out much, if at all, lol.
As much as I love being with my kids, I feel I am missing something. Has my destiny been put on hold? Is it sitting on a bookshelf waiting for the duster?
Recently, I started this activity for myself. I write five different questions once a week as a reminder to keep me thinking about my purpose and to encourage myself. Here are five examples:
1. What did I enjoy doing before I had children?
2. What gives me excitement and fulfillment outside of my children?
3. What relieves my stress when I have long, tiring days?
4. Where do I see myself when the kids get older? In 1, 5 or 10 years from now?
5. What am I doing now to prepare for the next 1, 5 or 10 years?
I realize going to and finishing college, getting married, having children and staying at home with the kids are only the beginning of my journey. As I answer these and similar questions, my goal IS NOT to forget I have purpose and stay the course.
Destiny, I hear you calling and I am on my way!
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I’ll wear my prayer shawl to be covered and near.
I’ll burn my candles to place me in Your atmosphere.
I’ll turn on my worship music to bring me closer.
Whatever it takes to be near You Lord.
I want to strip and peel away all that is not You.
Who is the real me Lord? Please show me.
Who am I pleasing?
For I want to please You.
Who am I Serving?
For I want to only serve You.
No more seeking titles.
No more striving for sheepskins (degrees).
No more trying to create relationships.
No more running or avoiding those related.
No more robbing Peter to pay Paul.
No more being afraid or confused.
I only want to be who I am in You.
Letting all be drawn to me,
Because of You,
So ready, so ready to be free.
Let me be found to be a True Servant for Thee.
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Early the other morning the Lord awoke me and I heard, “Take Him at His Word”.
Quickly, I grabbed my journal and wrote what you are about to read.
Receive it my friend…receive it!!!!
My heart and soul cries out for You Lord.
My tongue cries out in an unknown sound.
My soul is tender for and towards You.
With much intensity and then suddenly in quietness,
I speak and say to Him, I just want You to know how I feel about You.
He replies, “I am the One that gave you that feeling”.
You drew me to You Lord and I’m now in Your presence.
Plain and simple, we must Take Him at His Word.
Read His Word, Study His Word, Hear His Word.
Then Trust His Word.
He is The Word. We are in Him literally when we get in His Word.
Do you ever long and desire to be closer to God?
Do you just want to rest in His comfort? In His peace and in His presence?
Do you weep for Him because you love Him so much?
Well, begin today by Taking Him at His Word.
I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently will find me Proverbs 8:17 NKJV.
My prayer: Lord, I really want to grow and know you spiritually. I need my own daily walk with You, but more importantly, I want it because You’ve commanded me to do so. Thank You for giving me the strength to fulfill your commands and to grow. I don’t know if I’ll ever understand why You sacrificed Yourself for me. But from the depths of my being, I want to SHOUT praises to You and tell the whole world what You did for all of us. AMEN!!!!
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Earlier in August, Gurls Talk’n had the privilege of hosting its first mini-conference!!! The theme title: “Lord I’m Ready Now!!” We had an amazing time sharing, loving and giving to all who were able to attend. Below are some highlights from the conference.
Post comments from some of the conference attendees:
“The decorations were nice and I enjoyed reading the affirmations you hung throughout the conference. It created a positive and inviting atmosphere …”
“Great job Ladies!!!”
“Everything was excellent! I really enjoyed from beginning to end … ”
“Excellent food selection!”
“The food was delicious and the speakers superb!”
“The event was well ran. I enjoyed myself and will definitely share my experience of the conference with others.”
“The Spirit of the Lord was present. Very informative.”
“Event was done in Excellence, which made everything a blessing.”
“Gurls, just keep doing what you’re doing to reach out to more women, especially those going through difficult times … ”
“I liked hearing and learning more about God.”
“Praise God Gurls, you all did an excellent job!”
“This conference uplifted my spirit!”
“The time allotted for the conference worked well. You all did a wonderful job!”
“What I liked most about the conference was the fellowship and the Word.”
“I liked that Destiny had the courage to minister in song by stepping out on faith.”
“For next’s year conference, would it be possible to include a “Gurls talking discussion time?”
“I loved your idea of including the younger girls in your session.”
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So it’s official!! I am a Pinterest Junky! From looking for man cave ideas to searching for affirmations to put on my daughters’ bedroom walls–I am hooked!
I know, I know, some of you may be thinking it’s just pictures and ideas, right?
Wrong.
What began as a single idea has now become my reality, which has quickly fastened itself to my family’s personality.
When I’m done with my projects, I will have a prayer nook, a game area, and a reading room for my daughters to learn how to be comfortable in their skins–a getaway designed just for them.
As I pondered through these ideas, it reminded me of how I create different pins for various boards of my thought life. Some of my thought processes are positive, while others are negative. Usually the dominate one is the one you see in my actions and reactions to whatever is going on externally at the time. What I soon discovered is my life is an inside job.
Let me explain what I mean by inside job by asking you this question. What visions are forming inside of YOU based on the boards you have embedded in the depths of your minds? You know, what goes IN must come OUT!!!
Are you experiencing doubt, fear, love or peace? Or a combination of them all? Perhaps, there’s a battle within struggling to see which one will control the others?
How does negativity make you feel? In control or out of sorts? Sad, disappointed, lazy or frustrated?
I want positive and hopeful boards, not sad and pathetic ones. So when you go back to your thoughts, I mean boards, be sure to pin what you truly want and not what you will soon regret.
Thoughts from a Pinterest Junky.
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